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Old Aug 07, 2019, 12:33 PM
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It's so hard to imagine my most recent therapist saying this to me. He's never come close to expressing any kind of feelings for me as a person. Actually, I've seen four different therapists in my adult life and none of them ever made it known that they had feelings for me. Oddly enough, the closest any of them came to expressing this was the last time I saw my ex-therapist. We ended on bad terms, but she hugged me very tightly at our final meeting and had genuine sadness in her eyes when I left.

My most recent therapist did once say that he "loves all his clients," but it was in a general sort of way without much emotion in his voice. I always get the feeling from him that he doesn't want to deal with the repercussions of crossing any boundaries and he stays mostly detached, which is smart, but it also keeps me from sharing everything that I would like to. Some of what people have written here in this thread sounds so alien to me, and I don't even know how I would handle it if a therapist suddenly expressed this amount of emotion toward me.