So since I finished the DBT group for a couple of months now. I learnt vaildating other people and also asking people questions in a socail setting. Since I have socail anxeity. But what I've notice is I vaildate these people I know say through Facebook messager and ask them questions. Which they answer too. But I never get vaildation back or even ask how I am doing.
I'm starting to feel drained. It takes a lot of effort to think carefully how to vaildate someone make sure I'm not dismissing them. So it takes a lot of brain power put of me.

I dont know what to do. Or meet people that give and take back forth to each other. Or what I'm doing wrong in my communication.