I was diagnosed, and I wasn't all that surprised when I got the diagnosis. I already had the feeling that I never really quite belonged anywhere. You really do have to wear a mask to seem "normal." I am not capable of empathizing with other people, and I've never felt true remorse for anything wrong I've ever done. It's a selfish disorder honestly. The only thing that keeps me from doing some really bad things is the fact that there are consequences. Sociopaths can still do good things and be good people, but I've rarely experienced any good feelings from it. I feel embarrassed about it, honestly. Anyway, it's not too hard to pick up on the fact that you may be a psychopath or sociopath. The fact that you care if you are or not leads me to believe that you aren't one.