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Originally Posted by sarahsweets
Generally if it’s coming out of Our mouths, it started in our minds. I like to reminisce about past positive events whether the person is in my life now or not. I don’t think it means that you miss the person necessarily just that the feelings associated with events and experiences are pleasant and thinking and talking about them is nice.
I do agree that talking about someone who was negative or hurt us and they are cut out of our lives now can mean you haven’t moved on. Before I had boundaries and valued what I contributed to a relationship I allowed myself to be taken advantage of. I couldn’t figure out why the same things were always happening and then when I got sober it was like a light turned on. I was able to release toxic people, let go of my resentment and not let it affect me. I used to say mantras in my mind like “ That was then , this is now “ or “ I grew, they wilted “
Just things like that to redirect my mind. All of this was also done with the aid of therapy and meditation/ prayer.
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I agree and glad things worked out and got better for you. I used to be taken advantage of a lot too but not really anymore.