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Originally Posted by comrademoomoo
I think this illustrates really well why love is such a tricky and painful issue. It's hard to see a best outcome. The therapist doesn't love the client (or doesn't use the word love) and the client can feel an existential rejection which leads to core hurt. The therapist does love the client and the client can experience a retraumatisation of "being special" (and all the associations of the language of abuse), of boundary breaches, and of unsafe practice. And yet, in many ways, a kind of love is inevitable.
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Well said.
This is among one of the reasons I find therapy as a whole to be an impossible situation. At least for me. It served me well for a little while, but eventually I realized that the only way I could be happy was getting out and meeting those needs with people outside of therapy.