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Originally Posted by HowDoYouFeelMeow?
Sorry to hear of the stress this is causing you. Although we can’t be 100% sure that your T isn’t saying those words, we can be very confident that your T is not saying them. Here are some more or less objective things to consider:
*You mention that you were distracted
*You mention that you weren’t making eye contact. Seeing lip movements during speech can make a huge difference in comprehension. Check out something called the McGurk Effect
*You mention that you have low self esteem and are a little paranoid. Given the above, these characteristics could be filling in the auditory blanks/lack of clarity in a not so nice way that matches your internal feelings. Our brains do this all the time.
*Remember the yanny vs. laurel debate and how much people mishear song lyrics. Perception is not reality.
*Do you have any direct evidence that your T doesn’t like or mistreats you?
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Thanks, I'll look into the McGurk Effect. As you describe it, it would seems to me that not only applies to this particular case, but to the majority of my experiences
In general, I'm always on the lookout for any signs that could indicate the people doesn't like me or hate me. If this happens with everyone, would you call it transference?
My T sometimes flips some papersheets which we use to work in a fast, or at least not in a manner that I could call calmly. When I break eye contact for a second and then look again, I see my T looking the door behind me. On another session, we were working with some cards and, when I wasn't looking, my T dropped the card. I perceived it at that moment as something like "what's the point"
Other than that, I wouldn't say that I have the evidence.
Also, like Xynesthesia2 says, do you think that is possible that I'm blocking those things?