My T is certified in somatic experiencing with additional related training in touch work for treating physical symptoms of trauma and for treating nervous system dysregulation. Touch is a regular occurrence in our sessions. It is very powerful and healing. It has never made me feel uncomfortable, but instead makes me feel much calmer and comforted. Its effects are more useful than a benzodiazepine.

My T ALWAYS asks for permission before touching me, even though it has occurred regularly for quite some time and I’ve never said no, and even for seemingly “simple” things such as putting her hand on my shoulder (I realize “simple” is quite the relative term re: touch). If I said no, she would not do it. If I hesitated to say yes, she would not do it.

It is inappropriate that your T is touching you without permission, more inappropriate that it is escalating without your permission, and extremely inappropriate that it makes you feel uncomfortable. I’m really sorry you experienced touch in this way.