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Originally Posted by TeaFruit
So since I finished the DBT group for a couple of months now. I learnt vaildating other people and also asking people questions in a socail setting. Since I have socail anxeity. But what I've notice is I vaildate these people I know say through Facebook messager and ask them questions. Which they answer too. But I never get vaildation back or even ask how I am doing.
I'm starting to feel drained. It takes a lot of effort to think carefully how to vaildate someone make sure I'm not dismissing them. So it takes a lot of brain power put of me.
I dont know what to do. Or meet people that give and take back forth to each other. Or what I'm doing wrong in my communication.
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If they never validate you back or ask how you’re doing maybe they either aren’t very good friends/contacts or possibly haven’t learnt these skills. I’m not sure. It can be draining to be kind and supportive and to receive no support
or even acknowledgment back. Support is better when it is a two way thing unless you’re specifically there to be their support person or are someone who doesn’t like talking about yourself. I haven’t done DBT since I’m in the UK
So these are just my thoughts..
Are there ways you can meet some other people,.. I’m not an expert on how to do that
Maybe you could ask them if you’ve been of any support to them?
And has my reply been of any support/help to you
