the weird thing is that my "warm and fuzzy" t has way better boundaries than any of the others. she offers hugs and care but also makes it extremely clear that none of what happens in that room is about her and her needs. I am a chronic attacher to people and when they are fuzzy it makes me fuzzy. I thought having someone meet my needs would unleash a huge obsession and make me just want to be cared for but it seems to be the opposite. T offers care so freely it makes it safe to explore my reactions and feelings for maybe the first time ever, there is no obsession. It frees up a lot of head space when you can't think exclusively about whether you do the "right" thing to keep a person accepting you.