I have had a lot of T’s who would do these things and then if I called them out on it would put the blame back on me. I didn’t get anything positive out of my work with them.
Current T is different. Sometimes he will catch it before I say something and he will bring it up. If I bring it up he is wide open to talking about it and working it through without blame. Given his responses I cannot imagine my T being willing to move on until he was 100% convinced I was OK. Current T is also very proactive in letting me know if he has outside stressors or is distracted. I brought up with him early on that he was human and we all have off days. I let him know that for me it helps if he lets me know he is having an off day because I don’t want to be bringing up something that I need him at his best for when he can’t bring that A game. We still do things on the days when he is not at his best and I still expect him to give 100% of what he has while he is with me but those are the days we do lighter work.