Have you ever heard the phrase, "familiarity breeds contempt" before? What it means, is, just because something is familiar to us, that doesn't mean it's also good for us.

I have dated men I had a lot of things in common with, but they still turned out to be the wrong men based on how badly they treated me.

I think it's great that you know yourself so well. Introspection is important. I do it a lot. If you know that you don't want to date bicurious women anymore, make sure that the women you date know this upfront. Be direct with them, so that if they are bicurious, they won't mislead you and you can avoid being heartbroken again after you become emotionally attached to them.

I've learned that the more information we give people, the more they will either respect it, or take advantage of it for their own purposes. Relationships with others -- there's no guarantee that they will ever work out the way we want them to, because we can't control other people's behavior, just our own behavior.

But, I also am better at establishing boundaries and expectations with men now than I was in my 20s or 30s. Now, I can stop things from progressing with a man when his actions go against the boundaries and expectations I set for him.