In looking back over what I posted, I realized I was unclear in how I strung that paragraph together. I know I talked about expressing emotions in terms of crying in the first part and being able to let them out. What I meant by how I've changed is more that I can express other things with people, too. Telling T that something he did bothered or angered me. Or if a friend or H is telling me something that's just making me feel worse about whatever I'm talking about, maybe I'd say, "You know, this isn't helping me right now. Can we talk about something else?" Which I suppose one could see as controlling, but I think is also a form of boundaries. (And friends have done this with me, and I respect them for doing so, where in the past I'd have thought "Oh no, I've ruined our friendship forever.") Or, with my mom, just not telling her about certain things (where in the past, I felt like I should share most everything). Or calling her out sometimes if she says something that offends me. Hope that makes more sense. It's not just the crying.