Has anyone had luck with DBT? The philosophy makes a lot of sense to me, but I'm having a really hard time with the therapist. I want to do the whole thing, skills training group, individual, phone coaching. So I'm paying a lot of money to do just that. But the therapist is freaking me out.

It's hard to say exactly what it is. I'm doing it over a video conference which might be part of it. But there's something else too. She always seems like she is in a hurry. She throws skills out a mile a minute. She also always seems annoyed at me. I think maybe I contact her too much. Actually I am sure I contact her too much. But what happens is that I feel apprehensive, but not horrible before a session and then in the session I get more and more upset and then by the end I am crazy and dysregulated. It usually takes me two full days to recover from therapy and sometimes I contact her to try to fix it.

I feel worse after therapy than I have in months before I started therapy. I've had 5 individual sessions and 4 of them were horrible. Horrible like I'm calling the suicide hotline because my therapist is upsetting me. How dumb is that...but emotional regulation is why I'm going to DBT. I want to learn the skills, but just reading them isn't enough. The group isn't bad, but we are in interpersonal effectiveness which doesn't seem to be fixing my interpersonal problems with my therapist.

I guess I'm trying to figure out if the problem is the therapist or DBT itself.