I'm sorry it didn't happen with that guy. Just keep looking.

My husband told me his old friend used to go to singles events (in person events). That's always an option. His friend met his wife through one. I also have a couple friends who did eventually meet their husbands through online dating.

I don't know you that well, but I can say that being a bit of a flirt can definitely attract guys. It doesn't have to be sexual flirtation. In fact, it's better to just seem very interested and exuberant -- unless you want to flirt sexually to get instant sex. Please try to be as self-confident as possible. Self-confidence is attractive. Being overweight definitely does NOT have to be an issue. I'm sure you have things you really like/love and feel strongly about. Let that shine. Be sure to ask questions that make the guy feel good about himself, too. I'm married (20+ years), but I still enjoy innocent flirting.