I've been with my fiance for 4 years. Something I'm struggling with that I want to work through as we approach the wedding is that I highly value caring about/helping others. It's probably my #1 value, and I've devoted my career to it/ see it as my life's purpose. For me this also manifests as being a feminist, learning about my white privilege, etc. My fiance is kind to other people, but he isn't passionate about helping others and can't relate to my desires personally. I wish we could bond over this, and sometimes it bothers me. He also is not very informed about social issues such as racism, ableism, etc, but took it upon himself to learn a little bit because he knew it was important to me. That matters a lot to me. But I guess my question is how do I come to accept this more, that I can't fully share in this core value? Or how does anyone accept a difference in values in a relationship? I definitely want to marry him, but this does occupy my mind sometimes.