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Originally Posted by KMO31
That's fine and all, but it isn't ways as easy as just filing for divorce and moving out. It requires a lot. They'd have to arrange housing shares, she's not married, and they have kids. You can't just simply walk away. I cannot just also ignore her and the kids, when the children become attached then it's harder. Her ex knows about me, we've been somewhat intimate with each other in his company, he has a girlfriend. I understand your red flags, but sometimes it just isn't as easy as it is to write.
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Oh I understand that. I am married second time and both I and my husband went through divorces. I know it’s not a picnic.
I just personally think that getting into relationships with people who still live with their exes (if they truly are exes) is not a good idea.
I am not sure what you mean by not being able to ignore her or the kids. It’s not a requirement to face time with anyone’s kids especially this early on in
a relationship. You’ve met them once?
It’s much better for children to not get attached that early on and it’s not very responsible of a mother to cultivate her kids getting attached that fast.
Normally people date someone for awhile before they even introduce them to their kids. It’s a responsible thing to do. If it’s not going to be a serious relationship no need to get kids involved already. Second time she met you she invited you over to meet the kids and now you have to face time with them? What’s the rush? Why is she speeding things up? That wouldn’t work for me. Red flag. Not healthy.
You can be friend with her if you can’t ignore her for some reason. You aren’t required to be romantic with her though especially that quick.
You asked opinions and that’s what I think. You certainly can do what you think is right.