Um, to be blunt with you gabee21: YES those are signs of a covert narcissist man.

Having had experience myself with these types, every # you listed were prime examples of narcissistic behavior. Prime examples.

You can google "behavior of narcissist" and every single item you listed, would be mentioned.

Please avoid any further contact with this guy. He's bad news all around. He will try to reel you back into his life until he finds his new "source" of emotional energy from another woman to drain from her.

Narcs are the top tier of emotional vampires. They prey on vulnerable women and by vulnerable, I mean women who are nice, sensitive, empathetic, kind, giving, generous, sweet. Being a nice person is the equivalent of shark chum to the narcissist.

Narcs can smell a person's vulnerability miles away and will hunt down their prey online with love bombing and play the hot and cold game and then when their victim has the strength to leave, will make false promises and try to gaslight their victim into giving them another chance, only to rinse and repeat the same toxic behavior.

Whatever he promises you now, just don't believe him. He's shown you his true character and that's not a very nice character. Like Mickey said, grieve this relationship experience and be glad you experienced the Narc in full bloom, because NOW you can see the signs next time, of the Narc approaching you online or in person and have the insight to avoid any entanglement romantically or socially with the Narc in the future.

I got rid of a Narc and blocked him on FB and as soon as I rejoined the FB group and took him off ignore, BOOM, he was sending me FB lovebombing messages again which I just deleted and didn't even respond to. I don't even respond to his attempts to mention me by name in the FB group if I post and he comments on my posts. I simply ignore him. I refuse to give him any of my emotional energy anymore. He really fooled me in the beginning too, just like you were fooled. But, you're a smart gal like me, b/c you caught on, called it quits, slipped up like I did giving your Narc a second chance, but then said "NOPE" and that's it.

Be proud of yourself for surviving a Narc attack. They are very divisive and clever. The will disguise themselves as victims or sensitive guys who listen to every word you say and reflect back to you a mirage -- that's right, a mirage -- they will reflect back YOU to yourself, and fool you into thinking "wow, this guy is such a great listener we have such great chemistry!" Nope. You have great chemistry with yourself, when it comes to interacting with the Narc.

Tons and tons of videos online about these types of men. And good articles too. And books.