Love and acceptance does inspire positive changes. Many of the things I have accomplished in my life happened because I followed the advice or emulated people I looked up to. They were good, positive people who showed me what was possible in my youth and never said a discouraging word. This is why it is so important to spend time with positive people. For me, it was my grandmother, father, sister, the retired couple next door, a small number of friends, a few of my supervisors and my husband (though his positivity can be inconsistent and so can mine--depression/anxiety/trauma can play a number of us). When we are too isolated, it closes us off from what is possible.