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i don't know what your relationship with your mom is like... so all i can do is tell you how i would feel if i found out that one of my children cut... i would be really concerned... and it would worry me... but as a parent i need to tell you i would much rather know what is going on with my child then not knowing... even when i had a lot on my plate... i would never want my child to feel the pain i do when i cut... and i would want to get them whatever support they needed... just my 2 cents worth... like i said i don't know what your relationship is with your mom.... but i can tell you how i would feel even when my plate is full...lyn

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I was 18 (and living 200km away from home) when the 1st dr treated my SI, and it was...another...8 yrs before my mother found out. Admittedly, I do not have a close relationship with her. I have ensured a very close strong bond with my 2 girls for this reason, and as lyn said I would be devastated if they ever felt they could not come to me with something no matter what else was happening in my life. They will always come 1st. If you have a dr you trust and have a good relationship with, and who will not tell anyone if that is what you want, then getting the SI out in the open will make that relationship stronger and easier for the future...(all IMO of course )
Take care.