Be very firm talk to the alter in this way....TAKE ME OUT OF EVERY FAMILY REUNION BUFFET AND ANY PLEASE THERE IS OVER EATING …...If it is my cut back day I be very tough with mine this can cause severe destabilization. I had this happen the other day. I had to check every over weight person that I had been around you can't avoid ALL people just is what it is eat disorder is common in my family. I hate heat cold food my mouth chewing the aroma I almost self injured my mouth.....