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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
...it could have saved both of us a bunch of grief.
He mentioned again about how it seemed I wouldn't take no for an answer, and that he shouldn't have had to explain himself.
But that it felt more like, "Nyah, I'm not gonna stand up just because you asked me to." He asked if I meant it seemed passive-aggressive. I said a bit, or else at least stubborn.
I said was partly because of what he'd said Thursday about how he didn't want to be controlled and wouldn't just do something because I wanted him to.
That it sounded like he wasn't doing it on principle, not for some particular reason. That even if he'd said he has a good reason for it, would have helped. I forget what he said to that.
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So this is why i think this t is good for you. Yeah you went thru grief on this, but i would bet dollars to donuts this is a common grief in your extended household.
So it would be great if, for instance, your parents could say no to you for something, or you could say no to them, and it just be ACCEPTED. No we dont want to do that this weekend, period.
I have no idea how to do this, of course
but thats why youre paying HIM the big bucks, not me! But it probably applies on a micro level too. Wear this shirt FOR ME today. (Or dont? I just remembered about the fish shirt!) Its about boundaries?