He wasnt being stubborn. HE JUST SAID NO. He doesnt need to give a reason!

Why did he need to give a reason? Why wasnt his answer enough? Why did she "forget" he hurt his back? Why was her sobbing supposed to make a difference?

I think its wise to look at the goals of therapy. Because this IS the relationship, but THESE are the relationship issues that are arising, not whether he is SHARING too much info with her. Its how she TREATS him, given whatever info she has or remembers. THATS the transference. Thats working within the transference. Im thinking of the family holidays where LT doesnt have a choice. Its the whole family dynamic. Nobody has a choice. (I didnt in my family - everybody chose everything for me.)

Why didnt I get a ? : pouting: