Awww LT. I'm sorry that your Mom always required multiple explanations and then didn't accept them when you gave them to her. Comparing your migraines to her friend's migraines certainly isn't helpful. I would probably be inclined to give an explanation as well. Because just saying no in my family was also discouraged. (Sort of seen like backtalk.) Plus sometimes I think a simple explanation can go a long way. Does someone have to give one? Well no. But is it kinder to the other person to give one? Usually I would think so. Although I am sometimes guilty of telling my T: I don't know. It's when I truly don't know. Or I don't answer at all, and she says, "Oh, you don't know, do you?" And then we move on. I don't mean to be rude, I just sometimes don't know why something is, or isn't, or could be, or should be, or whatever. But I think it can be seen as rude to say I don't know (which I know is a tangent and not connected to what you went through) but I don't mean to be rude. Okay, I'll stop now. HUGS LT. Kit