But my mom always required explanations for everything, sometimes multiple ones.

And I don't think I'm treating my T so horribly.


Hello??? Do you see the pattern? This is transference in action. Your mother didn't accept your boundaries, you struggle against your T's. And I know you'll say it isn't the same because your mother's actions were hurtful, and you're only being normally interactive. But you're shifting the therapy relationship into a social relationship. Of course, you realize it isn't, but, but, but--that's the nature of transference. So the question is: what is this struggle about? What needs are you trying to meet by engaging in this way? And how do you see it resolving--what does that look like? Because if your answer is anything along the lines of your T behaving, thinking, feeling differently, you're distorting therapy.


I think your T is actually pretty good about holding his boundaries; I think he could do more, but he is also trying to balance keeping your feelings from escalating--something ex-MC failed to do.