I'm DEEPLY SORRY for what you're going through, @marriagekeeper! Like CANDC, Skeezyks and TunedOut have already wisely said better than I ever could... you can't really force her to Love you. It seems like you're trying your best to make her happy. That's TRULY admirable - it really is! But if she still refuses to stay with you after ALL of this, perhaps the best thing to do is to truly let her go. I understand that's REALLY painful but unfortunately in some cases there aren't too many alternatives. I want to make clear that it is NOT your fault this is happening. Everyone has some flaws. You're doing good by acknowledging and by trying to work on them. You're only human after all! If this isn't enough for your Wife, though, perhaps the "spark" just isn't there anymore. You can try to ask her if there's ANYTHING you can do to still save your marriage, but if she's firm on her decision, then perhaps it's best, for BOTH You and Her, to just let it go. I'm REALLY HAPPY that you're going to see your Counselor soon at least! Definitely talk things through with him! Hopefully you'll be able to find a solution. If you don't, take your tiem to grieve, but remember that Life isn't over. You can STILL Live a good Life by YOURSELF so please NEVER give up Hope! Not to mention you may STILL find someone else for you! Keep working on yourself like you're already WONDERFULLY doing ALL and ENTIRELY by YOURSELF! Please keep us updated on your situation if you wish to do so. Things will get better one way or another. I'm SURE of that! Feel free to PM me ANYTIME when you need Advice and Support. I'm sure PLENTY of other wise, wonderful posters will gladly HELP YOU OUT as well! Sending many safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @marriagekeeper, your Family, your Friends, your Wife, your Counselor and ALL Of Your Loved Ones! PLEASE KEEP FIGHTING AND KEEP ROCKING AS MUCH AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN LIKE YOU'RE ALREADY WONDERFULLY DOING ALL AND ENTIRELY BY YOURSELF!