I am glad you are sober. I also am an alcoholic and have been sober for 7 years. Do you go to meetings? It sounds like your wife is done but she has no right to make your daughter be done. If she wont get counseling-fine but your daughter needs it. You are her father and you need a chance to make amends and be in her life. Do you have a lawyer? You should get one. You need to nurture your daughter not be blocked from her. What are the laws regarding those types of orders and children? What does your family say?