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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
My direction would be to help me break my transference and help me feel better because my T is not doing that. He is just being a stern jerk to make the safe caring environment he spent almost 2 years creating into a toxic, punishing awkward place. Of course he would say I was delusional and that is not what he is doing.
Leaving him is not an option at this time. I would collapse and die.
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Would you leave your therapist if you knew you wouldn’t collapse and die?
You describe him as being toxic, punishing and not attuned to your pain. I’m guessing if you could break the transference with a different therapist and feel better, you wouldn’t need this therapist anymore? Sorry if this is pushing a little too much into uncomfortable territory.
One goal that might be worth bringing to another therapist is “choice”. You should be able to choose to leave this therapist (if you want to) without thinking you are going to die. Not having a choice is not okay. Choosing to stay is fine too, but at the moment you are hostage and that is a scary, disempowering place to be.