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Old Aug 16, 2019, 12:04 PM
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Originally Posted by The mouse View Post
It's not wierd. Obviously it's a defence mechanism but as to what or why can only be known through talking about it.

Yeah, I’m pretty sure it’s a defense mechanism too. I agree that I should talk to him about it soon.

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Originally Posted by susannahsays View Post
When did you first notice the change?


I don't know about you, but I'm still angry at him for telling you that leaving your husband for his abusive behavior would be an overreaction.

I noticed it a couple months ago, but I’m not sure exactly what was happening at the time (therapy or otherwise). To be honest, I’d forgotten about that comment he made, so I doubt it has anything to do with that. I think it’s more about me than him probably.

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Originally Posted by SlumberKitty View Post
It's hard to say why you are feeling that way. It could be that the pace of therapy is wrong...too fast or too slow. Or that there was a rupture that hasn't fully healed, or that there is something you need to be talking about but you don't want to be talking about so it's a way of not dealing with that. Talk to you T about how you feel. Hopefully through those discussions he can help you past the impasse. HUGS Kit

Thanks Kit. I saw my t the day I posted this, and while I didn’t bring up any of what I said here, I actually felt ok with him for the first time in a while. I have no idea what made the difference. Maybe because I felt he cared because he mentioned doing research on something I’d brought up last time we met? The fact that he spent some of his free time looking things up to better understand my experience and help me meant a lot, and honestly surprised me.
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