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Maybe a little insight from a now EX-wife that was kinda in a similar place as your wife.
For me....every issue that came up chipped away at my RESPECT for my now EX. He even swore he made the changes that I said were necessary but honestly I never saw them.
For me.....it was 33 years of this but the last 13 were the final straw.
Bottom line is that even if he had been capable of making the necessary changes the respect was already lost & no marriage can exist without respect as the foundation. Even love doesn't fix lost respect.
It sounds to me like your wife MAY be at the point I finally got to when I left & her telling you that it isn't fair to make you change sounds like just a way she is trying to hurt you less even though she has had enough & really just wants out. If counselling hasn't helped in this amount of time....there may just be a lot of unspoken (maybe she isn't aware) emotions that are going on inside of her at this point. It took me years after I left my H & lots of good therapy to learn all the emotions I had wrapped up in wanting out of the marriage. It is never simple & always more to it than meets the eye.
Sometimes just cutting your losses is the best solution. You can't make something work when the other person has had enough
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Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
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