Hello WeTrudgeOn: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. Since this is your first post... welcome to Psych Central. The Men-Focused Support forum, here on PC, may be of interest to you. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/men-focused-support/

I don't think there is much of anything I can offer with regard to the specifics of your post. However here are links to 3 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of depression:

Depression: Symptoms, Types & Treatments | Psych Central

Living with Depression: A Guide for Coping with Depressive Feelings | Psych Central

12 Depression Busters for Men

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.