Maybe a temporary separation will help. Also couples therapy if your partner is willing to go. You probably do have a “ savior “ type personality with , although the best intentions, wind up NOT helping the other person because nobody will change their behavior until they’re ready. The most important thing though has already been said. You MUST keep working on yourself. I just want to add one more thing . Many times you need to find out if it’s really “ love “ , or just an “addiction.” Best of luck to you....