I agree with those that say you are treating your T as your mom treated you but I think it goes one step further. I have followed all of your posrs and I see the same pattern repeatedly. I am not trying to judge by any means, I'm simply pointing out an observation.

It seems like you have expectations of the perfect scenario of outcomes you want yo see from your T. (If only he would have said this...or all he had to do was this...). Everytime he does not respond as you would like, it appears you get upset and email or ask for an extra session in hopes of somehow getting him to change his mind and revert to your way of thinking. It is almost like you won't give up until he agrees with you. (Stone, email terms, standing, parting greetings, etc).

I lnow it is difficult for you to accept his reponses that do not agree with your preplanned expectations but part of life is that things do mor alwats go our way and each person gas their own autonomy; we can't control what others do. Maybe you feel that he is required to do things your way because he is the T, but part of therapy is to mimic real life and help you deal with life's disappointments.

I think your T has always trued to do the right thing for you which is not always what you wanted but uou continue to fight it each time resulting on a rupture until he finally gives you what you want.

It would probably be more helpful to spend sessions working on how you can change these patterns so that you can better deal with things not always going your way in the future. Think of all the ruptures, emails, and sleepless nights this could prevent if only you could accept and allow others to not always agree with you. Kind of like raising children. They are not always going toget what they want in life and that is ok. They will still survive and grow and may thrive better in the long run. (Eating candy at every meal or watchg tv all day is not healthy)

I hope thus does not sound too harsh, it is just my observation from the past tear or so. I wish you the best LT and am consrantly lullong for you, hoping your T can break through your expectation requests and start to really work on resolving the patterns of your distress. It sounds like you know where it is coming from. Try asking T for solutions to help yourself change and deal with the issues. The goals of therapy are to help you change, not convincing the T to change. This is usually painful but necessary to improve your life.