As a mother, that is the rule in my home too. If she's paying for your food, shelter, and clothing, you're going to have to live by her rules. That's the way life works. If she allowed you to do whatever you wanted, you'd never grow up enough to make a life of your own. I doubt you want to be a kid for the rest of your life.

I'm a former teenager too with a "mom from hell," so I know where you're coming from. My mother allowed me to attend a high school prom, but she wouldn't let me where the halter style silk dress I wanted. I had to wear what looked like a little kid's confirmation dress - with arms, legs and neck covered. It was humiliating to be laughed at. Nothing I could do because mom held the purse strings.

You can prove to her you are not a typical teenager by following her rules. Place your focus on being more responsible for your behavior and actions in life, and work on a way to be able to support yourself.

You can't do what you want until you get a home of your own. Even then, you will have to answer to creditors and others in authority. People of authority on the outside don't care about you as your mom does, so try to view her authority as something you need to endure in order to live in the real world.

If you really want to get back at her, work hard and do everything she tells you to do with a cheerful smile on your face. You'll prove to her you're not a typical teenager. When you get your act together and move out on your own, she'll miss having you around - and you'll probably miss her too.