You're not being rude! Your job is to be honest. It is the job of your doctors and medical team to weigh your needs against someone else's. It is not your burden to carry. Don't let that be a reason for not seeking treatment. Your job is only to decide if you need help and to be as honest as possible about your symptoms.

I used to juggle multiple customers with needs that crossed over. They used to try to tell me who was more important. I was the strategist. I used to tell them all the time to let me worry about figuring out the order of how my teams would meet all their needs. Their job was simply to tell me everything that was going on and how it was impacting their business. They gave me the details and I crafted the best big picture possible. My picture was only as good as the details I was given.

You do your job the best you can and you give yourself the best shot at a fair and true process unfolding around you. The process breaks down when people step outside of their lane and try to make decisions that are better served by people trained to make them. Give all your details and let someone else create the best big picture possible.