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Originally Posted by MoxieDoxie
So if you want to work with your feelings and you want to feel free to feel whatever you happen to feel in therapy, choose an experienced, mature psychotherapist who will be rock steady while you go into your more vulnerable material. Do not go to a therapist who does not work within the transference. This means being informed about who you choose to work with, what modality they practice, and what they regard as therapeutic.[/I]
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How is a client supposed to know up front if a therapist is mature, rock steady, sane, etc? You find out those things AFTER the relationship has been going for a while, maybe a long while, and even then you never really know who you're dealing with.
Also "working with the transference" is a meaningless concept. Most people talk about this stuff in such vague and simplistic terms, as if all you need is a therapist who says they work with this and won't abandon you.
The truth is it's often a no-win situation.
If you reveal yourself and then get dropped by the therapist, it's a potential disaster.
If the therapist keeps you around and you become attached and dependent, then by definition you are in harm's way, and subject to possible deep wounding, abuses of power, regressive or obsessive dynamics, etc
If you do not reveal your feelings and keep going with the therapy, the relationship is built on a lie of omission.