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He has said in the past that he would be willing to volunteer with me, or perhaps to go on a Peace Corps type service trip. But he said he would ideally like it to be something where he could personally benefit as well (such as learning skills through Habitat for Humanity), which to me tells me that he's not taking in the spirit of what these trips are supposed to be about?
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In my opinion you would be wise to take him up on the Habitat for Humanity type of offer.
First of all, I think it is okay to want to get something for oneself out of the trip. Do you not get some benefit, some satisfaction, from helping others? I certainly do.
But also, it sounds like he is offering a type of compromise. I think you should accept this offer and not wait for him to look at things exactly as you do.
Once he is in the situation, his views can evolve in ways that are not concretely foreseeable at this moment. He might move more in the direction that you want him to. He might move away from that. But either way, you will get additional data to reflect on when thinking about whether or not you should decide to spend your life with him.