Hello Bluemoon: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central.

I'm sorry you have encountered this difficulty. You mentioned you've been diagnosed as having depression, you've stopped eating again, & can't sleep. You didn't mention if you see any mental health professionals. But if not that may be something you ought to consider.

You wrote that you are having a problem with a guy, a former friend it sounds like, who doesn't speak to you but stares at you without smiling. You asked what this means, what he wants, & does he hate you. Of course I have no way of knowing what may be going on in your former friend's mind. But my thought would be he's angry with you & he doesn't know what to do with his anger. So he stares at you whenever the two of you are in proximity to each other.

Your former friend probably senses he's making you uncomfortable. And so this is kind-of a passive-aggressive way of getting back at you for the relationship you struck up with his friend. Personally I doubt there's really anything he wants at this point other than to see you squirm. Maybe "in his heart-of-hearts", so to speak, there's a part of him that wishes the two of you could be friends again. But, at this point, he just wants to get back at you for what you did.

I don't know if I really know what to suggest to you as far as how to handle this goes. Of course one thing is to simply avoid being around him as much as possible if you can. Another thing is to try not to show you're disturbed by what he's doing. Try to just brush it off as no big deal. If your former friend gets the idea you just don't care & aren't flustered by his staring he may well quit. You could, of course, also confront him verbally if you feel able to do so. Tell him "point-blank" you don't appreciate being stared at & you want him to stop. Were you to decide to do this, it might be a good idea to have another friend, perhaps another woman, with you who can back you up. At least these are the sorts of things that occur to me. Perhaps other PC members will have other suggestions they can share. I hope you find PC to be of benefit.