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Originally Posted by Open Eyes
This is something I experience myself. I manage to control myself in the moment but tend to struggle afterwards, sometimes badly. My older sister is one who believes her feelings are facts and she definitely had/has cognitive distortions and it got to the point where I just had to avoid her completely because every encounter would trigger me to experience nightmares and I would struggle for a few days. Also, I do NOT like how it affects me in how I interact either where I am more sensitive than I normally am.
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Yes, more and more I am beginning to see how "feelings as facts" plays out. Like if their feelings change, then the facts change, lol. Even when you can point to written proof...that mist somehow be a lie.
I'm sorry you've had to experience this as well, OE. Even when you set boundaries and know how to cope, it can be a bit of a mind f***. Fortunately the narcissistic supply this person wants won't come from me. They will continue to be ignored. I'm really loathe to call people narcs bc I feel like we can all be narcissistic from time to time, just in the basic sense of the word. And regardless of why, they are trying to manipulate and gaslight me. It won't work. I know what's real and what's not and what happened and didnt and what's better is that I have got loads in writing to prove it.
It's almost funny when someone tries to gaslight you when all communication has been written and theres a full track record, lol. It's like, seriously? Are you for real? When you point out the precious written statements, then it's all obscene insults and below the belt punches trying to hurt you or make you take back the truth. Omg, just grow up.