You are RIGHT seesaw, thank you for pointing that out to me, it's very helpful for me to notice when I do this because you are correct in that my intention is to be validating and not to create what you are feeling from how I worded what I said. Honestly, I think this comes for literally YEARS of teaching young children and constantly explaining to them how what they need to do in order to get the ponies to actually behave the way they want them to. That together with the constant training I had been doing over the years of different animals and dealing with their different issues. I have to really recheck how I might be doing that unknowingly. I just spent this past weekend with lots of children again explaining things to them. I do spend a lot of time working with young children.