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Aug 20, 2019, 04:35 AM
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Member Since: Dec 2018
Location: New Jersey
Posts: 6,008
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@walkingby
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Originally Posted by walkingby
The demands, the bossiness, the teasing, the fights, the jealousy, the control and the physical "play" (pinching, biting, and so on...)...
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Do you consider this abuse?
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He treats people like crap, he takes advantage of them, cons them if he needs to, he's racist, sexist, and he's almost always complaining, shouting, and insulting someone. He's never available when I need him in important stuff - stuff I do for him...
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Are you racist and sexist? If you are not I do not see whay you would tolerate that in another person.
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We don't have any intimacy anymore. We don't do anything together, because he's a real antisocial person. He hates everything and everyone. He always finds an excuse to avoid it.
We only spend one night a week together, at my place.
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How is this a relationship? How is this even a friendship?
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Yet, I live in the moment. So I tend to ignore the past and the future.
And in the moment, I'm fine so I just go with the flow.
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How are you fine in the moment? How are you fine with someone who is racist, sexist with someone who treats other people like crap?
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But every time he shows me these abusive traits, I ask myself what am I doing with my life?
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Does he show this behavior to you a lot?
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Still, I can't break up. I can't evaluate this decision properly. I know were not compatible. He's not healthy, but I like some aspects of his personality
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This sort of thing is classic narcississm and gaslighting and confusing. How would you feel about this if your child, sister, mother dated a person like this?
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