faith,
I hope you don't mind a male's point of view here. You sound very full of doubts and fear about this relationship, and rightfully so. I don't think there's any doubt that you love your boyfriend, but I think that trust is the issue here. To me trust is the cornerstone to any relationship. If it doesn't exist, then there is little chance of the relationship surviving. Is moving somewhere else with him going to make you trust him more? I think you're absolutely right that marriage is a bad idea right right now. If he is serious about joining the Army, maybe that time of separation will give you both the time you need to see how you really feel about each other. If it's meant to be, you'll know it. My wife and I took a year apart early in our relationship because we were unsure that we were right for each other. We got back together and will celebrate our 13th anniversary this year. Trust your instincts faith.

I hope whatever you decide to do, the choices you make bring you happiness.

bptoo