I've been with my boyfriend for 5 and a half months and I didn't find out he has Asperger's until we started dating and I've gone since December 27th, 2014 not knowing that. So when I was flirting with him before we started dating I had no idea. It's been hard dealing with him sometimes. He gets confused what I mean or what I'm talking about during conversations. He keeps repeating things within the same sentence like he'll say "hugs and kisses" like twice in the same sentence and not very far between, he doesn't get when I'm just messing with him or joking or if I mean something I say and gets mad. For example, I'll say something I don't mean to piss him off and he doesn't understand that I was just making conversation or just messing with him. We have misunderstandings a lot that cause arguments or sometimes fights over something really stupid when we look back at it. We've never met in person as he lives in Texas as we haven't had a chance. But I'm moving in with him whenever he finds a job in the type of career he wants as he has a Master's and a 4.0. He wants to give living together a chance even though we've never met cuz he really believes it will work out. He says he doesn't know his full feelings for me yet as all he knows right now is that he likes me a lot more than a friend and he thinks we have great chemistry and he said he thinks he wants to be with me forever. There's one thing I've noticed he does that I think is stimming. He's always playing with his hair and running his fingers through it. He said his doctor said that too and I didn't even know that prior to telling him myself that he's stimming. I don't really mind his Asperger's a whole lot but sometimes the things he says make me cry cuz he words it wrong or he says something and I misunderstand him.

I actually feel really bad as when I was really angry and I'll tell him I hate him (even though I don't mean it). And about a week ago he screwed up big time cuz when I asked him when he was gonna tell his parents about me and he said specifically at the end of that week and the beginning of the next week. Come to find out, he was feeling pressured to say something or I'd get annoyed and thought it was a good idea to lie about that. However, he did apologize profusely for doing and saying that cuz he knew it was messed up and wrong and he didn't mean to lie. He said he wished he hadn't said that because it wasn't true and he regretted it and felt bad cuz he knew he shouldn't have done that. Honestly, as much as it hurt that he did that I think he just got overwhelmed because of his Aspergers. Do people with Asperger's get overwhelmed or under pressure a lot? Someone please give me some more info on how to deal with him cuz his Asperger's kinda bothers me and makes it hard to deal with him.

On another note, he sent me a video message yesterday saying he was going to be missing me and thinking about me non-stop. And when we talked again I asked him if he really meant that and did he really do that and he said yes. He has also told me he thinks he wants to be with me forever. I told him yesterday when I told him I wasn't in a good mood and it's because I had a nightmare he asked what it was about and I told him I dreamt that he left me and I woke up confused and not knowing where I was and then I had a hard time getting to sleep. He told me "It's just a dream baby and I don't intend to ever leave you" and he wanted to stay with me as long as possible because he really wants to be with me and he thinks it will work out between us and he doesn't like quitting. Also, he tried comforting me also by saying and I quote "It'll be ok". He's such a sweetheart most of the time and most of our arguments and fights are because of simple misunderstandings and I really don't think it's right to leave him because of his Asperger's cuz we've talked about stuff he does because of his Asperger's that is hard to deal with and he's said he's going to try and control his Asperger's more and be more clear about certain things that I got confused about, and I didn't tell him to, he just wants to control it better. If there's anyone here that has Asperger's or has someone who's family or a significant other it would be great if I could get some understanding from people affected by it and some advice/tips to understand and figure out how to deal with his Asperger's better.

Sorry if this comes off as insulting to people who have Asperger's or know someone who does, because I didn't mean to be insulting or mean at all.

I support people with Asperger's or family with it. I wish more people were like that!