I raised two aspies and have a bil that is too, and the rule is, if you've met one person with Asperger's, you've only met one person with Asperger's. They're all so different. I'm told I'm on the spectrum, too, but we haven't done any testing and it's really not to benefit me if we do. It's taken until his twenties before one realized what joking around was, the other still hasn't. The bil is so very different but also such a great guy. You have to figure out if you want to be in a very non-traditional sort of relationship. Then, you have to do things the way that works for both of you. If you know you're happy doing things that way, great. If not, you're asking for trouble. Asperger's people have a very set way and rarely change, but if they invite you into their lives, you're theirs. Kinda like cats [emoji57]