Hello omyplus: Thank you for bringing your concern here to PC. I see this is your first post. So... welcome to Psych Central. The relationships forum, here on PC, may also be of interest to you. Here's a link:

https://psychcentralforums.com/relat...communication/

I'm sorry I don't think I would really be able to offer much with regard to the relationship you describe. Hopefully there will be other PC members who will have insights they can share. My personal inclination would be to suggest you simply forget this guy & move on. Based on what you wrote, it sounds like he has given you ample evidence he's simply not interested.

Here are links to 2 articles, from Psych Central's archives, on the subject of emotional unavailability:

How to Spot Emotional Unavailability

15 Signs You Are in A Relationship with Someone Emotionally Unavailable | Relationship Corner

I hope you find PC to be of benefit.