<font color="#880000"> </font> Hello, I am really new to all of this. I mainly joined this because I would like to hear others opinions on this issue, and others. Ok, so my husband and I have been married for 3 1/2 years, and have one child together, and I have 2 others from another relationship. so we are a family of 5. I do have problems with wanting to have sex with my husband because i feel that I carry the weight in this household. He is a driller on a oil rig, so he works 7 days 12 hour shifts, and then he is off for 7 days, and he leaves to go hunting all of the time, so therefore I am still raising three kids on my own and handling everything while he goes and plays!! Then he expects me to have sex when he wants it, and I am more like "get away from me" Well, it's not they we don't have sex, we have it prolly about 2-3 times a week. but then I keep catching him watching porn!! Even after we get done having sex, like a few hours later, i will wake up and he will be on my laptop, watching it!! It is very hurtful and degrading to me. he thinks his actions are normal, and so I told him the other day that if he keeps it up, then i want out of this marriage....is that being to harsh?? I thought maybe he/we can go and get therapy, but he says it's normal for him to watch porn, and I think that if he was a happily married man, he wouldn't. Does anybody have any helpful advise for me?