Sarah,, what I'm trying to imply is that, even though I haven't worked for 20 years because of my health and my wife is the one that works, I have put everything towards her. She works and earns the money and because of that I make sure she gets what she wants and I go without. I'm trying to be a good husband.
2, forcing her way in. She kept asking to build a house with me, buy a big block and build two houses on it and because of financial dealings with a family member of mine years ago that hurt me, I refused. I regret not being more forceful and saying NO as I didn't want to upset her. She then asked to move in and I told my wife, no. About a year later the sister moved interstate for a job (only there for 6 months) and we got this call and it was the sister breaking down crying she needed help and next thing you know my wife's on the floor screaming in tears. I knew I'd been played by the sister as when I caved in and let her come, her attitude over the phone changed within an instant, you could tell her tears of anguish were fake.
3, lies. She never lied before at all. She has signals to her sister of one phone call and hang up. I'm sure this is to let whatever plan they have discussed happen, so my life in a way is being controlled . When I confronted her it's no way, even though I prove that she's lying. Deleting texts from her sister, so it's like she never rings or texts and yet they seem to know everything. Just little lies to . Pretending that she did certain things in certain situations that she was not involved with. Like she claims to have kicked her sister out after an argument. This argument, was after the sister had left. The most scary one is that she told me she was sexually assaulted as a child by one of the family members and that this sister saved her, but the story has changed and if I follow her timeline, the sister would not have been born yet .
4, divorce or death. Stress makes me ill and I'm struggling to live. Getting involved with our finances and giving bad advice to my wife has caused me to become sicker and sicker. For example her sister said "my wife should have money in her purse every week and because her husband wouldn't give her money that's what caused her divorce". So basically she has money in her purse or she will leave me and then the sister turns up and money is gone. I checked and I know I shouldn't but my wife had $20 in her purse and when her sister left she had $0. I confronted her and I understand why she got angry, but I only did this after multiple times this crap happening. My Doctor thinks the sister is evil and to keep her out of my house. I have had certain people just stop talking to me and I think a new friend of ours (a couple) had their minds poisoned. They attacked me for being a welfare cheat. At first they were really nice to me and I enjoyed visiting them. The last time they visited, it looked like they didn't want to use our bathroom as they might catch a disease, and when my wife's back was turned getting stuck into me about being a welfare cheat, really, really odd behaviour. From really nice, to really nasty towards me within months but so nice to my wife. Also lately my Doctor has changed, he was very caring, now it looks like he don't give a toss. He is easy to contact, by email.
5, My wife has always left the finances to me. She never has money, if she wants some she asks. It's the way it's always been. She always states our great financial position is due to me and before me she had nothing but debts. So to some it may sound like I'm controlling and it could be twisted that way, as I think the sister is doing, but every couple have their way and it was our way and I always put her needs first as it is her money. I go without.
6, bank card. this could be my imagination but i get the feeling something has changed with our banking. We don't need internet banking but our bank forced it upon us. In the past we would go and stop this, we don't need it. I went to find the password for internet banking and found it was gone, been in this folder for months, now gone. I had told my wife we were going to close it and she agreed we don't need it. The week before we went to the bank I got the distinct impression she had left work early that day, without me knowing. The previous night the sister had asked for the address to a business close to where my wife works. The next week I go to the bank and go to close our internet banking down and they close mine down instantly and when it came to her, my wife sort of backed off and I was doing the talking and I just get the feeling something odd was up. The staff member claimed that my wife never had internet banking on her account, I find this strange as it was only setup 6 months prior and i remember her struggling for a password. I'm getting the impression the sisters taken her to the bank and banks of course protect women, possibly stop me from me cancelling her internet banking and providing her with a new bank card. This is probably very weak, but the way that staff member acted was a little odd and the bank has policy for controlling husbands, it says so on their website.
7, my wife is the best woman in the world, but is gullible. Her little sister got her older sister (the older sister was on her death bed, just days to live) to beg my wife to look after the little sister as her as it was her dying wish as her little sister has no house or job, the little sister had a house and job but divorced her husband and then lost her job. It was of her own doing. My wife believed it. When I heard this ******** I saw the little sister grinning at me. The little sister is definitely in a three way relationship, with this guy who lives in a shed for three months and 9 months in Thailand. The way I see it, of course you don't want people to know this, so you can't move in with them, you move in with someone else, who's close, unfortunately that's me. She can't claim welfare, because the government will no longer allow welfare recipients to leave the country, they cancel their welfare and I know she goes to Thailand for 3 months to be with them. She wants just enough money to get by, build up my stress levels so I die or my wife and I divorce.
My wife has just let me know there's another competition at work so she needs more money. I have begged her, just a couple of weeks please with no money at work but she becomes really agressive. Yet three years ago before this all started I was the one forcing money on her at work in case of some type of accident or such and she always declined.
thanks for listening