I spell, too, and so do other people in my family. I sometimes "type" the words with my fingers.

I agree that catching yourself and trying to focus on what's happening helps over time, and that meditation can help because you learn to be more aware of what you're thinking and doing.

My husband shuts down when we argue sometimes, and it is hard for him to keep going when he's overwhelmed. It took a while for me to understand that he really is trying to listen. Before, I felt like he just didn't care, and we would fight about it. It is easier to work through things now that I am more understanding.

Now that I think about it, a lot of the time he starts playing "air drums" to a song in his head when it happens. Maybe it's more common for men?