I went home this past weekend for my mom's birthday and I brought my boyfriend of 6 months (who i just recently moved in with) with me to meet my mom and brother. He was incredibly polite and social towards them both when we arrived, but within an hour of our arrival my mom was making rude comments towards him. Later that night, we went a large dinner with my brother, his girlfriend, my boyfriend, my best friend, and my brother's best friend. My boyfriend chose a seat next to my mother in order to get to know her better, but she ignored him the whole meal.

The next day, when my boyfriend and I arrived back at my mom's house (we were staying with my dad an hour away) she wouldn't look at him or talk to him at all. The four of us went for a long walk in a local nature park and my mother wouldn't speak unless spoken to and walked about 10 feet ahead of everyone else the entire time. Later, I made sure to have some time where it was just me and my mom (we left and went to run some errands for an hour or so) so if she was upset about something, she could express it, but she acted like nothing was wrong.

On sunday, I left my boyfriend at my dad's house and went to spend time with my mom alone. We had decided to leave Sunday night instead of Monday morning, which my mom expressed upset over, so I made sure it would be just the two of us on Sunday. She acted normal and didn't mention being upset but made a point of not bringing my boyfriend up, either.

On Monday, once I had returned home, she started sending me text messages that were very combative. She said "if she had pulled any of that crap while visiting me i would have been very upset" i apologized and asked what i did and she said "you're so oblivious and in your own world you didn't even know i was upset. even your brother knew." and then i said "i knew you were upset, but i want to know what i did so i can fix it and not repeat it" and she said "it just wasn't you. you catered to his whims, and sublimated your personality. i read people really well and so it's hard to watch someone you love do something that's ultimately not good for them. when you have kids (hopefully not with your boyfriend) you'll finally get it." i apologized for upsetting her again and then she said "there are just so many parallels with your father. and i don't want that for you."

note that all of my friends and my dad LOVE my current boyfriend, i am the happiest i've ever been in a relationship, and my mom is negative about everyone i date and compares them to my dad.

What do I do?