Quote:
Originally Posted by theoretical
Good for you. But maybe I would like to have a vocabulary to understand myself and my experiences, which is something I've lacked for most of my life. I don't relate to other people, and consequently cannot share with them my feelings or experiences, not in any meaningful way.
I didn't say anything. I was just wondering if this is what people meant by "being yourself," or if the lighthearted joking would've been a good opportunity to open up about deeper topics. I'm guessing not.
|
Often lighthearted joking is used by people to avoid deeper topics as well as prevent people to get to know them on a deeper level. I’ve met people who always joke, you can’t ever get to know them. They are always hiding behind their joking. Now lighthearted jokes are good, just not for that purpose
I think resurgam and I had similar suggestion of honestly directly saying that you aren’t afraid or anxious or bothered in these particular situation and you can share that you actually enjoy risk taking situations. It’s sharing. I’d not say it’s sharing on deep level as not being afraid of things is only one part of who you are, but it’s a start. It’s a step in “being yourself” with people
Going back to original conversation you had with guys. They were likely joking about their anxiety because it’s kind of hilarious plus joking elevates anxiety. People often laugh at their own fears. I have hilarious stories about myself in the mountains. Especially when surrounded by people who aren’t afraid of height.
Asking people why they are anxious will not produce any logical answer because they probably can’t explain, they are likely are just afraid of heights or open space or deep water or dark whatever other things some people might be afraid of. There is usually no explanation (sometimes there might be)