have you tried setting boundaries with your father... telling him that some issues are not ok and that you will not answer them?... even if you live in his house you have rights to privacy... i grew up in an alcoholic home also... and i completely understand how hard it is to set boundaries... but i think for you... it's important... that doesn't mean he won't cross them... but it might make it easier for you to take care of yourself when it happens... lyn